“The words you speak become the house you live in.” – Hafiz
Over the weekend, I found myself reflecting on a class I took years ago where I was first introduced to a powerful idea: our language creates our reality. The words we choose—whether spoken aloud or whispered silently in our minds—carry real weight. They can empower us or hold us back.
Since learning this concept, I’ve become more attuned to how people use language. After listening to someone speak for a while, I can often tell whether they view themselves as active creators of their lives—or as passive victims of outside forces.
Here’s the exciting part: by changing our language, we can actually rewire how our brains think and feel. We can shift our experience of life itself. Empowering language fosters an empowering mindset. And that? That’s pretty amazing.
Take a moment to notice how often people say things like “I have to…” or “I should…”—those words carry pressure and guilt. They suggest we’re acting under obligation instead of intention. But what if we replaced them with “I choose to…” or “I’m going to…”? Suddenly, we’re back in the driver’s seat. Even saying “I choose not to…” is powerful—it’s honest, intentional, and rooted in agency.
When we consciously choose our words, we start to know ourselves more deeply. We align our actions with who we truly are. We also become more authentic in how we relate to others, creating stronger, more genuine connections.
So, here’s a little challenge for the week: the next time you catch yourself saying, “I should…” or “I have to…”—pause. Ask yourself what you truly choose to do. Maybe you choose to take that action. Maybe you don’t. Either way, own it.
The more you practice this shift, the more energizing and freeing life becomes. Less stress. More joy. And most importantly, a life that’s truly yours.
Wishing you a week full of empowering choices—just right for you.